As we grow older, we realize that our parents need our attention more than ever before. We realize just how crucial it is to have a relationship with our parents. What our aging parents need most from us is our time. It does not matter how many expensive gifts we have delivered to our parent’s doorstep; what they need most is your presence. Sometimes our parents may embarrass us in public or force us to do something boring. However, it is important to cherish the time we have with our mother and father.

Teenagers everywhere take spending time with their parents for granted because hanging with friends may seem more enjoyable. While it’s important to spend time with your family because they are the most significant source of guidance for the real world. They teach you lessons and skills you wouldn’t ever learn in school or from friends. They also are the first relationship you have. Spending time with them allows you to grow with them and deepen your love for each other.

Like every other human being on Earth, parents crave love and deserve respect.

To bring a child to life, the mother goes through sleepless nights, uncomfortable mornings and excruciating birth pains. After all this, she calls her child her crowning glory. As the child grows up, she feeds, bathes and dresses him/her and carries him/her in her arms. The father has many sleepless nights, too. He supports the mother and takes care of the child like a superhero. He does everything in his power to ensure that his child has better chances in life than he had.

The sad part is that they do all of this in the hopes of a long, good life for their child. And even if the child tries to reciprocate half of it, they would be doing it to repay the parents. There are many ways to convey your love to your friends and spouse. But how do you express your love and gratitude to your parents? The answer is simple; by respecting and honouring them, by developing a positive attitude toward them, by not bring up bad memories, by making them your priority, by consider their point of view, by calming them down when they are angry and not saying a single word at that time.  As our religion also teaches us to have the best relationsip with our parents. They are the most valuable and the most precious creation of Almighty. Even we are not allowed to say anything before them. Allah SWT has forbidden us to do so. On the other hand, we- the children misbehave with them and there is no realization at all.

However, we may steal their hearts by staying away from phones in their presence, by giving them our full attention. Or most often, parents repeat themselves, at that time we must listen as if we are hearing it for the first time. Along with that we should support their words and avoid changing the subject during a conversation.

A good child always asks his parents for advice, shares good news and his achievements with them. He / she treats their siblings (i.e., uncles and aunts) with affection and never get arrogant.  Sometimes sibling rivalries affect the parents more than the children. Do not make them take sides with any of you. This is hurtful to them. Moreover, it makes the fight bigger, since one of you would be fighting against both your sibling and your parent.

We must realize that we were our parents’ first priority when we were a child; as they age, they should become our first priority

Parents are a significant and dominating figure in our society. Without a shadow of a doubt, parents are well-wishers of their children, however, in the 21st century, the utmost complains recorded is of parents that the children are no longer close to them rather, they are emotionally abused and experience communication gap. The responsibility of being a defaulter lies over the parents, to push their off-springs at that stage where they no longer care, which was due to the provision of gadgets than sparing time and giving importance to their guardians.

Ironically, in childhood and teenage what children need are their parents, for guidance, listening to their tantrums, pampering them, motivating them but many parents are exactly opposite by being possessive, obsessive, desire imposter and being a stick to make them toddlers obedient.

Due to these circumstances, children way their paths with the parents and in these exceptional cases, these parents raise introvert children. Parents should understand children’s needs time, not money or gadgets, if not then later, only left with regret. Which is a dark side of the phase.  It is well said that as you saw so shall you reap.  So, being a good child, we must spend abundantly on our parents even if they possess millions, without thinking about how much they own or whether they need it. For example, we might give our parents a memory book or a pill organiser. Parents who have a hobby would appreciate something to help them with that hobby; for example, a gardener parent would appreciate a gardening tool. In this way, we may endeavor to make our parents happy and come close to them.

Eventually, it is to say that it’s never too late. Whatever the circumstances are, whatever happened in past, whether we had done many wrong and never did right to our parents, this relation never ends. This relation has some beaty in it. A mother never ever leaves her child at any stage. Her selfless love always waits for her child’s come back. A father tiring effort never loses. He always presents at the back of his child. Spending time with family that you don’t have a good relationship with is hard, but that doesn’t mean its impossible.  Many adult children will find themselves thrust back into their parents lives as they begin to require extra care. And that time, their parents have had departure from this mortal world, so hurry up and make your parents happy with your presence and good deeds.

Published in The Daily National Courier, August, 26 2023

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